Black love is starting to disappear. Its culprit has to do a lot with the angry black woman stereotype. Black women are deemed angry. We can sometimes have fairly strong attitudes that overshadow our femininity. This tends to keep men away. It’s so bad that even our own men— black men, choose to venture outside of their race to find some sort of relief. The Oprah Winfrey Network interviewed multiple black men: 

Michael, 46-Year-Old Musician

“Before [black women] even knew me, they said, ‘How many kids you got? How many baby mamas you got?’ Dating outside my race, I haven’t had no issues like that at all.”

Koro, 33-Year-Old Teacher

“I’ve been practicing abstinence for three years—three years with no sex. I’m looking for someone that can respect my views on this, someone that can love me for me.”

Bo, 28-Year-Old Business Owner

“I don’t date black women now because of past experiences. They like to place that strong personality on you, and sometimes, you just kind of like, you know, ‘Stay in a woman’s place.'”

Michael, Koro, and Bo find us nosey, hypersexual, and loud-mouthed, respectively. They aren’t the only black men that feel this way. According to the website Voxeu, “In 2006, 67% of white women between ages 25 and 54 were married, while only 34% of black women were – a gap of 33 percentage points.” Our status within society is doomed. Being black and women, we are already on the bottom of the totem pole. Without being married we will live unsatisfactory lives with bastard children that will fall into the same cycle. As a race, how must we grow if we black men and women are so divided? Present-day YouTubers such as YUNG MARTY TV and Top-Level Dating have very detailed explanations as to why they choose to stay far away from black women. No matter how much we march for the protection of black men, they still don’t want us. A change must be made.  

To combat this crisis, we should sow the mouths of black women with high-quality thread. It would be a relatively painless process, numbing medication would be used. This may sound somewhat barbaric but it’s pretty similar to a historic practice that some monks undergo: the vow of silence. The article 9 Extraordinary Benefits of Silence and Speaking Less Than Necessary, states, “When you speak less, there’s a sense of calmness and serenity in your speech. In our day-to-day hectic lives, such calmness feels soothing to us.” Ultimate silence would force black women to listen, self-reflect and learn the art of submission. Then they shall undergo attitude relief therapy in hopes of someday removing their stitches. Relationship gurus such as Kevin Samuels could be a big help in the process of re-educating black women on being more suitable partners and acceptable members of society.  

This could be a great solution but here is a better one. Why don’t we discuss where the angry black women stereotype stems from and examines its truth and faults? Let’s talk about how slave day practices have affected the overall perception of black women. Darker-skinned slaves, both men, and women were made to work in hot fields. Regardless of gender identity, dark skin became associated with masculinity. Hence, black women are being perpetuated as manly or aggressive, in the present day. We then have the crack epidemic which put away thousands of black fathers in jail and forced black women to become independent. The mindset of being independent and strong-willed has been passed down to black women for generations. In a sense, it is in our nature to stand up for ourselves and voice our opinion. It shouldn’t be looked at like something bad but should be deemed a survival instinct.